It's us again!
Your favorite scientific yet hippie, sovereign yet sensitive, witchy yet pragmatic, alternative yet down-to-earth, neuroemotional nerds!
To be totally transparent here, this is the third out of four blog posts we're sending you in which we geek-out about the neuroscience of manifestation and invite you to our insanely divine retreat in April.
And...
In all honesty, each time we sit down to write one of these, we feel a little discomfort.
It's like setting the most beautiful table, earnestly laboring over, preparing, and cooking up magnificent dishes we think everyone will adore, putting on our gold eye-shadow, and donning stellar outfits, and then having to sit in the vulnerability of waiting for our guests to arrive.
It's not easy!
Why?
Dude, programming is no joke!
We both got all sorts of messages that told us:
To reveal our true selves is dangerous.
To try hard is not cool.
To do a really good job is actually risky because you open yourself up to criticism for being good at things.
And on and on...
Early messaging is powerful.
It can detrimentally affect every aspect of our lives.
But even powerful messaging can be rewritten.
("re-wired" for you fellow neuro-nerds)
How do we know?
We now send out gorgeous vulnerable letters to our community at least once a week.
We put our actual faces on camera several times a week.
We host international retreats and frolic in our bathing suits every year.
We host people from all over the world in months-long certifications in which we cry, have imperfect deliveries, and drink our warm regulating beverages from cups that are as old as our relationship.
The proof is in the pudding, baby!
VULNERABILITY DOESN’T STOP US ANYMORE
Despite the early training we got to pay it safe, and blend in.
We'll be unlocking inhibitive messaging during our retreat, and implanting new wiring around getting to be and have all that we've ever wanted.
But what stops most people from signing up for an opportunity like this is...
the limiting patterns and beliefs around money they picked up from early messaging.
So, do you want to play a little game?
Want to find out what subconscious money-wiring has historically gotten in your way? (And may be getting in your way, right this second?)
Circle the number if it’s something you heard, were taught, or was modeled for you:
Money comes from working hard.
Having too much money makes you a bad person.
We have exactly what we need, no more, no less.
Don’t let anyone know how much we have.
There’s never enough.
You’re not good with money.
You spend it as fast as you make it.
Money is the root of all evil.
You need to marry rich.
Money doesn’t grow on trees (isn’t easy to get).
Money changes people.
It’s okay to spend money on [insert a family value here].
I’s not okay to spend money on [insert opposite of family value here].
If you scrimp and save you may be able to pull it off.
Money comes, money goes!
You only live once, enjoy yourself!
All you do is take, take, take.
Let someone else manage that for you.
Money is really complicated.
You’re greedy.
You’re stingy.
It is more blessed to give than to receive.
You get what you get, and you don’t throw a fit.
Wealth consists of not having great possessions, but in having few wants.
Poverty is a virtue.
The more you learn, the more you earn.
If you have time to rest, you have time to work.
Early bird gets the worm.
Without hard work, nothing grows but weeds.
Nothing worthwhile comes easily.
A fool and his money are soon parted.
_____________________ [fill in what was modeled for you!]
(Click here to print this list out for yourself)
Are any of these messages embedded inside you?
How has this messaging informed your money behavior?
Does your net income (how much you have after subtracting the cost of working for it) line up with the messaging?
Do you want this messaging to keep deciding how your money flow goes?
I (Natalie) recently realized my family taught me it was only ok to spend money on your house, or fruit. WOAH! This is important intel (says the woman who spent $100 on one big batch of blueberries last month) if I want to feel comfortable spending on other things – like travel, parties, self-care, clothes, or even a new car (gasp!).
In my extensive explorations, I (Nathan) clocked the fact that between my early religious education and my own "survivors of the Great Depression" family mindset, I learned a) that money itself was the root of all evil, and b) living spartanly, and self-sufficiently, with a strong anti-waste lean was the only way to actually be a good person. This meant that for a good portion of my life I was blocking the flow of money coming to me, and I was stopping up the equally important flow of money coming through me. Both were vital shifts to make so I could allow abundance into my life, and to travel through me to others in my life.
Bottomline: We don't want to live according to our old messages.
We've been using our NeuroMagnetic Besties Retreat curriculum to help dismantle our old programming.
And wow...
It's rad..
Let's just say we're doing a lot less doing, and getting way better results –
Surprise financial abundance – unrelated to working harder!
Easier, more fulfilling connection with our most important people – without self-sacrifice!
Big picture clarity, and precise effective action that is now saving us thousands per month!
We're all good at manifesting what our default programming has determined as "okay".
If our early messaging said it's only okay to work hard, and stay vigilant, we do — earning just what we need to stay safe (not too rich! not too poor!) hustling on the work-hard-hamster wheel forever. Manifestation achieved!
If our early messaging said money is complicated and we should put someone else in charge, we do — we give over to someone "good with money", live on a vague "allowance", spend unconsciously, and try to remind ourselves to be grateful (despite the growing unease, or resentment). Manifestation achieved!
If we want to manifest something contrary to our early messaging…
We have to update our nervous system.
And really, what better way to do that than within a highly-curated container informed by leading-edge neuroscience, and 20 years of proven success?
And in one of the most protected, exquisite places on planet earth?
And with your best friend?
April 19-25, 2026
Pura Vida Wellness Center
Yelapa, Mexico
(more details here!)
We'll use our time together to dismantle the old messaging that's getting in the way, and recalibrate our entire system to be a match with what we actually want – no matter how far-fetched that "want" may feel from here.
It's a week-long retreat, but a months-long manifestational container.
In the weeks leading up, you'll get support through in-person sessions, foundational videos, as well as daily journaling practices that are customized specifically for you and what you're calling in.
While in Mexico, you'll be in deep immersion, practicing how to receive care, abundance, and attention - from juice delivered to your hands while you swish in the saltwater pool, to spa treatments, to gourmet meals.
During afternoon workshops, we'll leverage our trademark Emotional Sovereignty tools to clear the NeuroMagnetic path to what you desire.
After we return, we'll keep the magic alive with a community session as well as continuing journal practices that help to myelinate the changes to your nervous system.
You will not be the same after this.
Track your starting point because you can expect huge shifts!
(And they will likely start as soon as you place your deposit, so keep an eye out for winks from the universe that you're on the right track!)
This retreat is for powerful duos who love doing cool, magical, science-leveraged personal growth stuff!
Send this blog post to your bestie and play the checklist activity above.
IS THEIR HISTORICAL MESSAGING WORKING AGAINST THEM?
And remember!
There is one more week to get in on the super sweet early bird 🐦⬛ special!
Interested?
(You can start with a deposit and figure the rest out later.)
Place your deposit on, or before November 4th and get a spa treatment of your choice – on us.
Fancy a massage?
Or Watsu session?
It's yours.
Complimentary!
(Did you get some messaging around not spending money on "frivolous" things like self-care? Maybe a *free* massage is a way to baby-step your nervous system into giving self-care the green light!)
You can place your $500 deposit here to save your spot.
A luxury retreat in Mexico with your bestie…
Where you get to fully relax and frolic…
While dissolving the nervous system barriers to your greatest desires?
LITERALLY, WHAT COULD BE BETTER?
Not to be too on the nose, but...
For fellow smart-witchy-snowflakes that are tired of the ol' hypervigilance dance, and ready to live into their birthright of divine calm, ease, and empowerment, it doesn't get any better than this.
Want to talk about how your early messaging is getting in your way?
Let's do it!
We'd love to explore your particular nervous system and team up to see what's right for you.